November 17, 2012
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Of Bondage
A lot of people fee that bondage is a part of BDSM and that it involves pain and masochism. It doesn’t have to be that way at all. Bondage on its own can represent a fun way to enjoy a different sort of sexual experience.
Some people enjoy the feeling of being in restraints, of having someone else in complete control, and the feeling of helplessness. But what I enjoy most about it is the relief that the one who is tied up from trying to please the other. Certainly most of the time, I fully enjoy mutually participative sex but I also enjoy teasing and being teased.
When you have your partner tied up, their pleasure is at your mercy and you can touch them, tease them, work their bodies as you know they like. But denial is a part of the excitement by delaying their complete satisfaction. Extending the foreplay. Making a night of it.
Of course, the tied up partner is often more sensitive than normal in this situation, because they cannot respond or initiate any activity, all they are left with is to feel your caresses. Blindfolding them reduces even further the senses they can use and increases the anticipation. This can be a good time to get out the vibrators, oils, silk, and other bedside playthings.
Bondage can be enjoyable from both sides (IMO). Whether you are the one doing the teasing or enjoying the ministrations, I highly recommend you give it a try. Trusting your partner is an important aspect of the enjoyment (unless you enjoy fear) and so it’s not a first date activity.
If you or your partner have a fear of being tied up (from some childhood trauma) this can be done but getting your partner to agree to pretend to be tied up and agree to not respond or initiate contact with you. Usually you will have to remind them once or twice during the teasing.
So give it some thought. Discuss it with your partner. Give it a try. Enjoy.
Comments (15)
heh I just comment this in lovejennys site, I’ve been told I’m submissive and I am probably, but just to see the pic of the robes make me so scared, to the point of crying… I like the idea of giving pleasure (satisfying myself by his/her pleasure) and your take on it makes a strong point towards it but I’d still be wondering if he/she is in the same amount of terror the idea of being tied up produces me :
@xXxlovelylollipop - sounds like your terror is out of the norm. So chances are that your partner would be more willing to try it. Some people as I mentioned find the terror an added excitement if they are with someone they trust.
@RushmoreJ - oh I don’t have a partner I haven’t had one since I got divorced 4 years ago. When he (ex) did that once (tied me up) it was really terrifying and I couldn’t see it was just for a moment, for me it was pure malevolence
I’m screwed up in my head 
I highly recommend it, but only if full trust is established. Great post!
Fine post, well worth a rec. I think even if being tied up makes you anxious, that could really make you hot. Just like anger and jealousy can.
@xXxlovelylollipop - sorry that you had a bad experience with it. Don’t give up on it. Perhaps be the one in charge next time.
The one time when I was tied up for sexy time, it was one of me most pleasurable experiences I’ve had. Being blindfolded definitely heightens the senses too.
But that was a long time ago. Le sigh.
@RushmoreJ - lol tha promise to be at least interesting ha! the lollipop as the dominant part of it :O
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I’d totally do it for the clothes
@ascultafili - @wyckdstorm - thanks
@Marica0701 - not so innocent as you pretend I see
“Nawa-Shibari” is the sensual, almost romantic term for sensual bondage, “Kinbaku-Shibari” is the the painful strict restraint. I have studied both, but much prefer Nawa shibari. It is an intimate, beautiful art form to me.
@JadeMaster2 - thank you
@RushmoreJ - Haha. Well, all that was several years ago. My ‘activity’ has been pretty much nonexistent for at least two years.
@xXxlovelylollipop - Hell, I’ll buy them if you wear them!
@ccrider17 - lol
Fully in agreement. The more sensual form of bondage, its fun, exciting and makes for new discovery of what you or your partner can do to/for each other. Learning new ways to excite and erouse, is a part of being honest and trusting the someone you can love and care for… to start slow and progress step by step, new beginnings as it were to who knows where ?