In cooperation with 8 other authors of erotica, I am coordinating an effort to distribute free ebooks (erotica) to service men and woman and their spouses. There are 20 books/stories which are being offered for a limited time free of charge to these individuals.

If you know of service men or women (or are one) send me a copy of your email privately and I’ll see that they get sent a copy of the list.  This material is erotic and intended for adult audiences.  (I currently have a list of approximately 150)

We all make the mistake of thinking that everyone experiences things the same way we do.  Whether it’s a broken marriage, a death, an illness, an addiction, or a loving relationship, a commitment, a belief of faith.  With all good intentions we share the stories of our experiences to help others through the tough times and find their way to the good times.  We shouldn’t be surprised when our suggestions are rejected or even when our own experiences are ridiculed.  Because we are all different and no two people share the exact same perception.  So while we may have had a similar experience our solutions and suggestions may not be right or accepted by the intended audience.  Don’t refrain from trying to help but appreciate our limitations.  Less righteousness, more tolerance.  

I want to thank all of the Muslims who contribute to Xanga.  Frankly I have not had a lot of exposure to Muslims in my life.  I enjoy almost all the contributions whether well taken photographs, poetic insights, cultural vignettes, tours of their homes and even the occasional comment on my posts.  It’s refreshing to get a direct view and not have to rely on politically slanted news programs.  Thanks for being here.  

Time to gather the troops. And I don’t only mean the troops. Let’s get millions of people involved in the cleanup of the Gulf+. Grab those on the unemployment lines, those who will volunteer from across the nation, students on summer vacation, the fisherman in the Gulf who are losing their livelihood. Oh and pay them – tax free. Let them collect unemployment too, if eligible. Bill BP.
Get them washing birds, finding endangered wildlife, picking up the tar balls off the beaches. Whatever can help. Millions of people. Let’s go. Time is awasting.
Isn’t this what FEMA should be doing? Maybe we need to create an organization that really has the capability to respond to these kinds of emergencies.

So a few people responded to my last post that they would rather have their men be dominant versus submissive. Does anyone want to give an example of either Male Dominance or Female Submission. (They are different although often come together in someone’s fantasy.)

Suggestive Tongue recently posted on her blog about male submission and cited a few examples (Toys, Face-sitting, Humiliation and Making her cum). (http://suggestivetongue.com/2010/04/07/male-submission/) A large number of other examples came to my mind (such as it is!) some of which are sub categories to those above like Humiliation.
I wonder if each reader could give us one example of Male Submission would look like to them.
I’ll start: I think being tied naked, photographed and displayed to others would be a form of Male Submission.

Making a Sex Adventure Work

This is an unsolicited response to SerenaDante’s recent post (Sex Adventure)

1. Threesome. The key to introducing a third party is to either do it with someone who neither of you know (vacations are a good time for this) or to do it with a trusted friend. There is a bit of a trick to selecting the trusted friend. The woman has to choose the woman and the man has to choose the man. This eliminates the potential threat to the core relationship that occurs when in response to your desire to have a threesome, your boyfriend says, “Oh I know the right girl.” This is probably someone he has been lusting after and therefore a threat to the core relationship. (Same goes for men chosen by the woman.)
A good way to invite a third person is to have a one-day event like a Birthday, XMass present, or other celebration. This makes the threesome a special reward and implies a one time situation.

2. Lesbian Sex. As a man I think this is the easiest but that is probably just a guy thing. I do know some girls who have engaged in lesbian sex simply because it drove their boyfriends wild. And perhaps encouraging a girlfriend to engage in some light lesbian fare in front of your boyfriend just to drive him nuts might be a way to A. engage in full out lesbian stuff if she gets excited enough and B. engage in a threesome with your boyfriend.
For both 1 and 2 above keep in mind that having lesbian sex and/or a threesome doesn’t have to be an all or nothing proposition. Setting boundaries often creates a safer environment to plunge into these things. And then you can decide if you really want to follow up with another session.

3. Bondage. One of the key elements of making bondage pleasurable is freeing the one who is bound from any responsibility for having to satisfy their partner. Full responsibility for whatever happens belongs to the unbound person and the bound person is simply free to enjoy themselves. So you can create the environment of bondage without actually using constraints as long as one person agrees not to move their hands or feet (or whatever else the unbound person suggests). In the throes of passion and sexual teasing this can be a hard rule to follow but can be a safe way to start.

4. Role Playing. Serena’s idea of the cheerleader and athlete is nice but this should be played in behind real bleachers. Other roles might include nurse/patient, bar slut and conventioneer, priest/parishioner, teacher/student, etc. When possible you should play these roles outside the bedroom to start.

5. Sex Video. Go for it. You might try some performance art like a striptease. Or looking into the camera while you are performing oral sex. Or even create angles where you could imagine keeping it and showing it to others. For example, only show your bodies from the waist up while you are doing it. Then, of course, there is always POV (Point of View) where one person films the other essentially from their face. Hot.

6. Double Penetration. If you define this as using a dildo or vibrator, it is quite easy to accomplish and worth the effort assuming you enjoy anal.

Good luck Serena and keep us up to date on your progress. We’re all behind you.

Ages 18 to 28. It seems no where is separation between the haves and the have-nots any greater. I know a lot of young people who are either in a relationship or who have had practically no significant relationship. I believe that by the late 20′s this separation goes away and while some still have more success with the opposite sex, the difference is much smaller. But for many in their late teens and early twenties it seems a chasm exists.
I think for boys it is a issue of women wanting older (more experienced and more mature) men. Pity the young man who struggles with a frail frame, acne or simply the lack of confidence associated with virginity. Men at this age are also often lost in terms of a career, a good paying job, and a sense of direction.
For women I think the issue is more often associated with self esteem, the perfect body, and associated feelings of inadequacy. But again there seems to be a large number of women with virtually no social relationships. Pity the young woman who is slightly overweight or underweight or who doesn’t drink alcohol.
I see so many young people yearning for meaningful relationships, it makes me wonder if our society just does a poor job of providing ways to meet. Or is it about the expectations we set? What do you think?

Do you think girls are having sex at an earlier age than in past generations? I’ve heard that girls are experiencing puberty earlier and certainly they are exposed to more sex oriented material in commercials, on TV etc. than ever before. What do you think?