I’ve been blogging on Xanga since 2007.  Before that I blogged at another community called Gather.  I enjoy writing within a community and I find the idea of blogging in general cyberspace with WordPress or Blogger to be a fairly lonely experience.  It seems to take forever to build a following and you don’t know where to begin following people.  Yet Gather has done poorly and so too has Xanga.  Few people are still around from when I started.  

I’ve been pondering a lot lately – what is it that is so enjoyable about a community such as Xanga and why doesn’t that appeal appear to be more universal.  What do you think?

This is the argument by some who oppose same sex marriages.  Logically then all marriages should be dissolved when the partners become too old to bear children and proof of fertility should be a prerequisite to marriage.  I guess these are the same people who believe that anal sex is a sin and fellatio and cunnilingus should be prosecuted as abhorrent behavior.  I imagine these are pretty unhappy people who are afraid of their own desires. 

I actually have some homophobia.  It’s just not in my DNA to consider sex with another man.  It has no appeal to me.  But get over it!  Not everyone is built the same.  What you find exciting might not be the same as it is for me but why should I care and get my panties in a bunch over it.  Live and let live.  That’s the basis of freedom.  It’s supposed to be for all.

Her blue eyes were almost translucent

Certainly to her.

She saw the world differently.

 

Her frame was fragile

And her life hung by a thread

Threatened by her own destruction.

 

Her life seemed out of control.

No job, boring school,

No direction or desire.

 

She had no one

Who really understood her.

Or who heard her cries for help.

 

The shadows in her mind

Haunted her, followed her

Wherever she went.

 

The goblins and voices

Never left her alone.

She was alone most of the time.

 

* * * *

Ah, the days of leisure

To do whatever we want

Or nothing.

 

A hundred years ago

Our children would be working

In order for us all to live.

 

Every hand was necessary

For survival.  To eat every day.

The family above all else.

 

Different values, they say.

Teen suicide rates are up.

Leisure. Loneliness. No purpose.

 

What to do?

When you’re bored with

Leisure.

When an old couple refused to sell their house to the government so that they could build a road, the Chinese government built the road around their house.  The elderly couple says the remuneration offered was insufficient to rebuild somewhere else.

 

A lot of people fee that bondage is a part of BDSM and that it involves pain and masochism.  It doesn’t have to be that way at all.  Bondage on its own can represent a fun way to enjoy a different sort of sexual experience.

Some people enjoy the feeling of being in restraints, of having someone else in complete control, and the feeling of helplessness.  But what I enjoy most about it is the relief that the one who is tied up from trying to please the other.  Certainly most of the time, I fully enjoy mutually participative sex but I also enjoy teasing and being teased.

When you have your partner tied up, their pleasure is at your mercy and you can touch them, tease them, work their bodies as you know they like.  But denial is a part of the excitement by delaying their complete satisfaction.  Extending the foreplay. Making a night of it.

Of course, the tied up partner is often more sensitive than normal in this situation, because they cannot respond or initiate any activity, all they are left with is to feel your caresses.  Blindfolding them reduces even further the senses they can use and increases the anticipation.  This can be a good time to get out the vibrators, oils, silk, and other bedside playthings. 

Bondage can be enjoyable from both sides (IMO).  Whether you are the one doing the teasing or enjoying the ministrations, I highly recommend you give it a try.  Trusting your partner is an important aspect of the enjoyment (unless you enjoy fear) and so it’s not a first date activity.

If you or your partner have a fear of being tied up (from some childhood trauma) this can be done but getting your partner to agree to pretend to be tied up and agree to not respond or initiate contact with you.  Usually you will have to remind them once or twice during the teasing.

So give it some thought.  Discuss it with your partner.  Give it a try.  Enjoy.

PayPal is censoring what you can read by demanding publishers remove certain erotic literature from their offerings. You can find out about both sides by reading my blog: http://rushmorejudd.blogspot.com/?zx=5e35154b7906abb9 or hear PayPal’s side by reading their blog: https://www.thepaypalblog.com/2012/03/paypals-acceptable-use-policy-on-sale-of-certain-erotica/  Apparently they have decided the courts are the wrong place to decide what is taboo in literature.  If you liked the Twilight series (bestiality) or if you enjoy erotica in general, please sign this position to stop PayPal.  https://eff.org/r.1Uy

Are you aware that PayPal has taken it upon themselves to censor erotica by pressuring the publishers to meet their censorship guidelines or they will withdraw their credit card services.  Since PayPal has a virtual monopoly on online credit card processing for non-mega sites, so the publishers are feeling the pinch and caving in.  Censorship by corporation officers – a new model for demagoguery.  Read more about it here:

http://rushmorejudd.blogspot.com/2012/03/paypal-conducting-book-burnings.html 

If you are continually returning to my site but have blocked me from yours (or ignored my friend request), I would appreciate a brief note of explanation.  I do have some fans who do not want me to show up as a “friend” or even in their subscription list because of jealous spouses, work related issues, etc.  I get it and don’t mind.  But some explanation is really appreciated.

Amy Winehouse, Janis Joplin, Jimi Hendrix, Jim Morrison.

I lived in Sweden for a while and my favorite time there was the Summer Solstice.  First of all, it is a major holiday in Sweden so everyone (almost) has it off.  Secondly, it is light just about all night.  It gets dusky and the sun sets but only for a half hour or so before it begins to rise again.  I’ve spent a couple of SS there and it was marked by good friends sharing a leisurely drink and good cheer.  The bars are open all night and there is no sense of rushing to get drunk but rather a relaxed jovial mood. Actually in Stockholm it can be hard to find a bar open since most of them close but the ones that are are usually quite busy.

There is also a custom for toasts.  Everyone raises their glass but doesn’t drink until each person has made eye contact with every other person in the group.  I have seen this done with groups of twenty and there is no shortcuts.  If you look at someone and they are making eye contact with someone else it doesn’t count.  Eye to eye is demanded of everyone.  Kind of cool.

Skoal!